NVC for being overwhelmed

“Reflect in your thoughts about your feelings and your way of speaking about your feelings.”

“Instead of I am sad, which is saying that I’m sad and that’s all there is.

“What you can say is: There’s a part of me that feels sad.

“That gives your system the reassurance that you’re more than your feelings.”

“Maybe your feelings are super big. You don’t need to diminish your feelings.

“You can say: Part of me feels extremely sad.

“This acknowledges that your feelings are big and you’re still there.”
via https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kZ10net8rss&feature=share

Pavane de la Belle au bois dormant: Lent (Pavane of Sleeping Beauty) by Maurice Ravel

Pavane de la Belle au bois dormant: Lent (Pavane of Sleeping Beauty) by Maurice Ravel

From Ma mère l’Oye (Mother Goose)

Originally for one piano four hands, the piece was transcribed for solo piano by Ravel’s friend Jacques Charlot the same year as it was published (1910).

Five years later, Ravel dedicated the first movement of Le tombeau de Couperin to Charlot’s memory after his death in World War I.

My one word theme for 2020 is Experience

20 years of adulthood. 20 years as a graphic designer. 20 years. ~7,300 sun rises and sets. Time passes. It won’t wait for you.

Time feels no concern about whether you’re ready, willing, able, competent, foolish, or prepared.

Take every moment for what it is: Experience.

We each get to have our own unique experience. At times that feels empowering. Other times that feels lonely.

We learn from the experiences of others. We grow from believing in what we see, hear, touch, smell, taste.

Tough times make the happiest memories. Remember when that moment seemed important? Later, it didn’t matter at all. That split second that seemed insignificant changed everything.

2019 – Accept – “Autobiography” by Ashlee Simpson
2018 Complete – “Level Up” by Ciara
2017: Go – “Ready to Go” by Panic at the Disco
2016: Listen – “Listen” by Beyonce

Age 37 Paradox
Age 36 Curious – Witness by Katy Perry + Curiosity – Carly Rae
Age 35: Process – “Life is Wonderful” by Jason Mraz
Age 34: Balance – “The Middle” by Jimmy Eat World

Opinion Manifesto

Another manifesto – a public declaration of aims.

My one-word theme for 2019 has been “Accept”, so a manifesto on opinions feels good.

Opinion Manifesto

1. Love people first, then philosophy

2. It’s not good because I like it. It’s not evil because I don’t like it.

3. Ideas, suggestions, and thoughts – not truths.

4. Own thoughts in my active voice.

5. Personal speaks to the universal

6. I shouldn’t should. (You might want… or they may choose…)

7. Ideas may change others, only if they choose to change.

8. Strong judgments create a mirror on the judger.

9. Inquire gently


“The more notes we’re getting, the better. That’s a sign that people are invested and that they want to go forward.” Happier in Hollywood 125

“The more notes we’re getting, the better.

“That’s a sign that people are invested and that they want to go forward.”

“If we’re treating the notes as part of the process of making things better, it’s much easier to handle things in a positive way.”

“This is a team effort. People at the studio, the network, they are part of the team. It’s not an Us and a Them. It’s just US. We all want the same thing.”

“Many experienced and inexperienced writers, they have the sense that this is my vision and that they are attacking my vision. That’s a very common way to think. That is not at all where how we think about things.”

“If we don’t think it’ll get on the air, we push back. If we don’t think that, we will accommodate the note as best as we can.”

“The other thing is relationships. We have a lot of new relationships.

“See this not as a project, but the relationships. Ultimately a project will end – whether it’s 10 years or 10 days. All you’re left with is relationships.”