“It was not afraid because it couldn’t hold a story that the lion was gonna come after it again.” Martha Beck with Byron Katie

“Once I watched a wildebeest getting chased by a lion, and it was terrified, and then the lion got tired and gave up. And the wildebeest stopped dead in its tracks and started munching grass, with the lion still right there.

“It was not afraid because it couldn’t hold a story that the lion was gonna come after it again.

“But in the human mind, what happens is the impulse for fear goes out, and then a very recently-developed part, the language cortex says oh my God, I’m gonna hold a story of the bad thing that happened because it could happen again.

“And then we get this, the mind creates a story that then re-frightens the lower levels of the brain, which then create more fear that goes into more story, and it’s a circular process. And that is just the way most people experience the way life is.”

“We even tell stories on the news about how wild animals live in constant fear of starvation or predators. I used to believe that, and then I started living among wild animals, and realized, without story, without the human mind, they live in that bliss.”

“People would start acting against injustice.

“People would start acting against crime, against corruption.

“We would all be doing what we can to make this a better world, because we’re not fearing what we believe that would cost us to do that.

“So we’re afraid of losing what we have, like comfort, security, pleasure, if I go too far to help another human being, it can cost me something.

“Well what if we were aware that we didn’t need that kind of protection, and we really knew that the universe is friendly, and there’s nothing to stop us from doing good

“Only fear would stop us.

“And then you run to make the world even better.

“You will begin to change all the things that cause suffering.

“It is not a state of dumb acceptance,

“it’s this vibrant, beautiful, active love in action.

And in a way, teaching directly out of we live our, how we live our lives as opposed to how we just talk about it.

“As Gandhi said, be the change you wish to see in the world.”

Pavane de la Belle au bois dormant: Lent (Pavane of Sleeping Beauty) by Maurice Ravel

Pavane de la Belle au bois dormant: Lent (Pavane of Sleeping Beauty) by Maurice Ravel

From Ma mère l’Oye (Mother Goose)

Originally for one piano four hands, the piece was transcribed for solo piano by Ravel’s friend Jacques Charlot the same year as it was published (1910).

Five years later, Ravel dedicated the first movement of Le tombeau de Couperin to Charlot’s memory after his death in World War I.

My one word theme for 2020 is Experience

20 years of adulthood. 20 years as a graphic designer. 20 years. ~7,300 sun rises and sets. Time passes. It won’t wait for you.

Time feels no concern about whether you’re ready, willing, able, competent, foolish, or prepared.

Take every moment for what it is: Experience.

We each get to have our own unique experience. At times that feels empowering. Other times that feels lonely.

We learn from the experiences of others. We grow from believing in what we see, hear, touch, smell, taste.

Tough times make the happiest memories. Remember when that moment seemed important? Later, it didn’t matter at all. That split second that seemed insignificant changed everything.

2019 – Accept – “Autobiography” by Ashlee Simpson
2018 Complete – “Level Up” by Ciara
2017: Go – “Ready to Go” by Panic at the Disco
2016: Listen – “Listen” by Beyonce

Age 37 Paradox
Age 36 Curious – Witness by Katy Perry + Curiosity – Carly Rae
Age 35: Process – “Life is Wonderful” by Jason Mraz
Age 34: Balance – “The Middle” by Jimmy Eat World

Opinion Manifesto

Another manifesto – a public declaration of aims.

My one-word theme for 2019 has been “Accept”, so a manifesto on opinions feels good.

Opinion Manifesto

1. Love people first, then philosophy

2. It’s not good because I like it. It’s not evil because I don’t like it.

3. Ideas, suggestions, and thoughts – not truths.

4. Own thoughts in my active voice.

5. Personal speaks to the universal

6. I shouldn’t should. (You might want… or they may choose…)

7. Ideas may change others, only if they choose to change.

8. Strong judgments create a mirror on the judger.

9. Inquire gently

 

“The more notes we’re getting, the better. That’s a sign that people are invested and that they want to go forward.” Happier in Hollywood 125

“The more notes we’re getting, the better.

“That’s a sign that people are invested and that they want to go forward.”

“If we’re treating the notes as part of the process of making things better, it’s much easier to handle things in a positive way.”

“This is a team effort. People at the studio, the network, they are part of the team. It’s not an Us and a Them. It’s just US. We all want the same thing.”

“Many experienced and inexperienced writers, they have the sense that this is my vision and that they are attacking my vision. That’s a very common way to think. That is not at all where how we think about things.”

“If we don’t think it’ll get on the air, we push back. If we don’t think that, we will accommodate the note as best as we can.”

“The other thing is relationships. We have a lot of new relationships.

“See this not as a project, but the relationships. Ultimately a project will end – whether it’s 10 years or 10 days. All you’re left with is relationships.”

“Most fundamentally, the past is done. Gone. Over. If you had some major disaster in July, the time to deal with it and learn from was in July.” Laura Vanderkam

“Most fundamentally, the past is done. Gone. Over.

“If you had some major disaster in July, the time to deal with it and learn from was in July.

“If you have a major success in May, that’s the point to analyze what worked.

“Not in November or December many months later.

“We can’t change the past once it’s over. The future is not so constrained, it’s wide open.”

Laura Vanderkam

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“You have thoughts about me. There are things you like about me. There are things you disagree without about me. You have ideas about who I am and what I stand for. Those are concepts you define. You are having a relationship with me as a concept.” Brook Castillo

“Pure circumstances are circumstances without language.

“Most of us think our ideas about things are the things themselves.

“We mistake our stories for the things.

“We mistake our interpretation for the thing. We start having relationships with our stories instead of the things.”

“You have thoughts about me. There are things you like about me. There are things you disagree without about me. You have ideas about who I am and what I stand for. Those are concepts you define. You are having a relationship with me as a concept.

“Think about my name. The language of my name. There’s me and there’s my name. They’re different things. There’s me and there’s the description of me. The circumstance is your experience of me: The experience of my voice without language. If we were in the same room, the physical experience of me.”

“The goal isn’t to have direct experience without language.”

“Not to stay there and live there. Just know that circumstance gives you a place to rest in between your models.”

“Passing through neutral.”

“Sometimes you can’t go from a negative thought to a positive thought.

“Sometimes it’s easier to go from: I hate my body to I have a body to I love my body.”

Source: The Life Coach School Podcast – Ep #287: Passing Through Neutral | Listen via Stitcher for Podcasts