“Putting something on your list like ‘lose 50lbs’ or ‘learn spanish’. Those are outcomes. We can’t control outcomes. We can control actions.
“Translate that into an action that you’re going to follow. Like ‘Quit Sugar’ or ‘No more fast food.’ Put that on your list. You can’t wake up tomorrow and lose 50lbs. You can wake up tomorrow and not go to a fast food joint.
“Learn Spanish? That’s a gigantic goal. What are you asking of yourself? It might be: Watch one YouTube video a day. Or use DuoLingo consistently. It’s unlikely that putting ‘Learn Spanish’ on a list is going to help.
“Think more about: What would you do to get closer to your goal? Things that you can check on if you’re doing.
“Action items. Make action items. Concrete manageable action that you can make tomorrow.”
My one word theme for 2019 is ACCEPT. I notice when others push against reality – idealization, disbelief, and outright denial. This is a cue for my desire to accept others, situations, and myself as they are. Feel as I am. Accept that many things and people won't be ideal. Believe others with supportive curiosity rather than doubtful skepticism. With acceptance, I get to decide how I deal with that reality. I can accepting present myself and still work toward my future self. For 2018, my theme was COMPLETE Where I am is the most complete version of me. As ... Read more
"If someone is whining about not having coffee – even if it's your boss – you 100% not-at-all do not need to volunteer to do that. It's not your job. He can get his own coffee. If he doesn't want to, he can hire someone who has that in his job description." Alison Green
"If someone is whining about not having coffee – even if it's your boss – you 100% not-at-all do not need to volunteer to do that. It's not your job. He can get his own coffee. If he doesn't want to, he can hire someone who has that in his job description." "If someone asks you to fix the vacuum, your answer can just be: I don't know how to do that any more than you do. Sorry I can't help If someone asks you to do other things that aren't your job, you can say: sorry I don't have to ... Read more