Happiness Manifesto

I’ve written my Happiness Manifesto inspired by Gretchen Rubin. A manifesto is a public declaration of intentions and values.

Newly revised version:

  1. If all else fails, let go a little. Or a lot. Don’t sweat small stuff (It’s all small stuff)
  2. Different people like different things.
  3. Effort over outcomes. Show up.
  4. Events involve pieces beyond us.
  5. Win-win or no deal, and that’s okay!
  6. Listen. Notice what right. Say good things out loud.
  7. Mistakes are neutral at worst, helpful at best. Decisions go forward, not backward.

 

Original draft (November 3, 2016)

  1. If all else fails, let go a little. Or a lot.
  2. I love that we all get to exist.
  3. Different people like different things.
  4. Effort over outcomes. Show up for yourself.
  5. There’s always many factors
  6. Win-win or no deal, and that’s okay!
  7. Listen. Notice what right.
  8. Say good things out loud
  9. Mistakes are neutral at worst, helpful at best.
  10. Don’t sweat the small stuff (It’s all Small Stuff)
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Creativity Manifesto

Of the manifestos I’ve wanted to write to simplify and solidify my core values, Creativity turned out to be the biggest challenge. (Seems I have very clear ideas on what makes me feel Kind and Happy.) I’ve shared so many books, experiments, and studies on creativity on my blog and podcast. I finally feel I’ve found a few core themes:

Seven Creative Virtues

  1. Go. Take action. (Be Bold and decisive about trying actions that might work.)
  2. Listen for your voice. (Looking is more worthwhile than finding.)
  3. Collect thoughts and ideas. (Save freely your own thoughts and those of others. )
  4. Know Like a Kid. (Kids know they don’t know it all. They play courageously anyway. Find a child-like sense of modest participation.)
  5. Think Big, Medium, Small. (Chase the big picture, the little details, and the in-between.)
  6. Find Fun. (Enjoy the weird. Humor yourself in the present.)
  7. Use Your Powers For Good (Take your turn to help. Everything will be okay. No one has it all figured out. )
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Happiness Manifesto: Say good things out loud

I’ve made it a goal to notice positive things. And say them out loud. Give compliments to myself and to others. And notice how many people go out of their way to do it. Just like the guy Marie Forleo mentions in her video on Positive attitudes. The maxim “Say good things out loud” on my Happiness Manifesto reminds me to notice and share good thoughts.

Martin Seligman, father of positive psychology, notes in his books that positive and negative thinking is a habit. It’s easier to change behavior than thinking. It’s easier to change thinking than feelings:

Step 1: Change Behavior.

Step 2: New behavior leads to new thoughts.

Step 3: New thoughts leads to new feelings.

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Kindness Manifesto

TL:DR – Respect, Thoughtfulness, Action

Half way through 10 days of meditation on Kindness. Decided to jot down a Kindness Manifesto. Here’s the current draft of a public declaration of intentions and values about Kindness:

  1. Act generously in spirit. No one has it all figured out.
  2. “Nice” is different from good. We’re born good. (Babies act very rude tho!)
  3. Soft heart + Hard Limits. Kindness isn’t a weakness. Know its strength.
  4. Act thoughtfully. Consider others and yourself.
  5. Respect the human experience. Value all beings and yourself for what they are.
  6. Embrace benevolent honesty. Insincerity and cruel truth help less often than you think.
  7. Decide with courage. Character inspires confidence in each other.
  8. Connect. We learn more from each other when we feel safe.
  9. Display your values. Especially when it’s inconvenient.
  10. Make mistakes. Feelings and situations can’t be perfect. Fail with admiration of your abilities
  11. Show appreciation.You think and feel it. Might as well show that you notice.
  12. Find playfulness in internal integrity. External reputation is less fun without it.

See also my Happiness Manifesto

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