In reply to I’m Sorry: Someone Who Apologizes Too Much which writes:
It’s hard to stop apologizing when you think it’s expected of you.
It can help these conversations if an apologizer tweaks the language to make it more specifics. People love to be around those who show understanding of a situation. Often over-apologizers miss out on sharing meaning.
The book The Five Languages of apology would be a worthwhile read for both sides. The types of apology:
- “I regret that this happened.” – I’m sorry as words itself may not clearly show that we are sad to be in a situation.
- “I understand that I was wrong for doing that.” – Rather than I’m sorry, say specifically what we accept responsibility for
- “Let’s talk about what can be done to make this right.” – Are you willing to make amends? Say that outloud
- “I’ll try not to do that again. Here’s what I’ve done to prevent future problems.” – Show that you’ve taken steps
- “Will you forgive me?” – Directly ask for forgiveness.
On How to Write Your Congressman, The Art of Manliness, Harry R. Burger writes: “Why should my Congressman care what I think?” you may ask. Well, you are one of their constituents–that makes it their job to represent you in government. They work for you, and if they don’t do their job and satisfy the people they represent, they can get voted out of office in the next election. This concept that we vote people in, then post-election leave them alone is silly. In a republic, our elected officials are mandated with the task of representing us. All of us. ... Read more
When I was a kid, I’d literally read the big red Webster’s dictionary for hours. Anyone else? Multiple meanings, sounds, and origins of words makes conversation this weird little game. The first thing I do with my inner child does every Monday morning is listen to stories about English words.