“It’s hard to fire your peers. Listen, Challenge, Commit. At some point, you have to commit to a course of action. Hopefully, you build the kind of relationships where sometimes it’s your way and sometimes it’s theirs. You can’t argue endlessly or work and life becomes impossible.” – Kim Scott
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Feeling all the mischief and play in my friendships and family after the fun weekend and month of May.
“‘Being careful is not as much fun as being friends,’ said Frances. ‘Do you want to be careful, or do you want to be friends?’” from A Bargain for Frances, Russell Hoban
There’s this weird sense of visiting versions of ourself when we’re in different circles and friends. Each with their own experiences of us.
I love this idea that being our underlying self equals being less careful.
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Of the manifestos I’ve wanted to write to simplify and solidify my core values, Creativity turned out to be the biggest challenge. (Seems I have very clear ideas on what makes me feel Kind and Happy.) I’ve shared so many books, experiments, and studies on creativity on my blog and podcast. I finally feel I’ve found a few core themes:
Seven Creative Virtues
- Go. Take action. (Be Bold and decisive about trying actions that might work.)
- Listen for your voice. (Looking is more worthwhile than finding.)
- Collect thoughts and ideas. (Save freely your own thoughts and those of others. )
- Know Like a Kid. (Kids know they don’t know it all. They play courageously anyway. Find a child-like sense of modest participation.)
- Think Big, Medium, Small. (Chase the big picture, the little details, and the in-between.)
- Find Fun. (Enjoy the weird. Humor yourself in the present.)
- Use Your Powers For Good (Take your turn to help. Everything will be okay. No one has it all figured out. )
“The generous listener is ready to be surprised. You go in with an assumption that you don’t know everything or understand everything. You’re truly curious which means becoming open to having any assumptions you bring to be unsettled. You’re gonna be graceful about that. You’ll be curious about that when that happens.”
Krista Tippett (American journalist, author, entrepreneur, and host of the public radio program and podcast On Being)
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“Manners are the happy ways of doing things; each one a stroke of genius or of love, now repeated and hardened into usage, they form at last a rich varnish, with which the routine of life is washed, and its details adorned. If they are superficial, so are the dew-drops which give such a depth to the morning meadows.” ― Ralph Waldo Emerson
I love to occasionally walk over and watch Peabody’s awesome free classical piano Masterclasses. The theme when viewing these classes demonstrates talent, time, and natural characteristics are lesser factors in improvement.
The actual key? Deliberate Practice:
“We agree that expert performance is qualitatively different from normal performance and even that expert performers have characteristics and abilities that are qualitatively different from or at least outside the range of those of normal adults. However, we deny that these differences are immutable, that is, due to innate talent. Only a few exceptions, most notably height, are genetically prescribed. Instead, we argue that the differences between expert performers and normal adults reflect a life-long period of deliberate effort to improve performance in a specific domain.” (Psychologist K. Anders Ericsson)
- Leveling up in skills links mostly to HOW one practices. Those fluent in a skill tend to break down skills and apply those ideas both in practice and in day-to-day life.
- Skill fluent people also learn to look for immediate feedback or information, adapting quickly.
- Mastering deliberate practice also involves quickly taking on new challenges.
- Malcolm Gladwell adds that dedication to practice and a support system helps. Those who are good at deliberate practice tend to be positioned to do so.
Read more in The Role of Deliberate Practice in the Acquisition of Expert Performance