Two monks were voyaging together. At a certain point, they happened on a stream with a solid current. As the monks were getting ready to cross the waterway, they saw a very youthful and charming lady likewise aiming to cross. The young lady asked whether they could help her cross to the opposite side.
The two monks looked at each other in light of the fact that they vowed not to touch a lady.
Without a word, the more seasoned monk lifted the lady, carried her over the waterway, set her tenderly on the opposite side, and continued on his journey.
The more youthful monk couldn’t accept what happened. After rejoining his sidekick, he felt puzzled. An hour passed without a word.
Two more hours passed. At last the more youthful monk could not restrain himself. He exclaimed “As monks, we are not allowed to touch a lady. How could you allow yourself to carry that lady on your shoulders?”
The more seasoned monk answered calmly, “I set her down three hours ago. Why are you carrying her now?”
The first value on my Happiness Manifesto: If all else fails, let go a little. Or a lot.
“Teaching in Washington DC, one year a friend was determined to tame to the basin and it was cherry blossom season. I just thought it was so exquisitely beautiful, all those beautiful cherry trees, those delicate pink blossoms. Then my friend says ‘Oh no, it’s past the peak.’ and I thought 'Now I’m having a bad experience.n This isn’t good enough. It’s past the peak. I was perfectly happy before. And now my experience is not good enough" Sharon Salzberg Listen to The Upgrade Podcast How to Find Real Love with Sharon Salzberg
Believe in the life-shaping power of honest, respectful, consent-based relationships. “On a gut level, I just feel like you need to let your own truth be enough. Which is not to say ‘I’m sorry I can’t attend because you are boring to me.’ You do not need to go out of your way to be hurtful to people. Nor do you need to deceive. Every time you deceive I think you do a little damage to your soul. So let your own truth be good enough. Say ‘I’m sorry, I will not be able to attend.’ And then offer no ... Read more