“Love of self, love of other: two strands in the love braid.
“I have braided these strands together in all sorts of relationships, in varying degrees of grace and ineptitude.
“I’ve messed up in both directions: being self-centered, being a martyr; not knowing my own worth, not valuing the essential worth of the other.
“To love well is to get the balance right. It’s the work of a lifetime. It’s art.