“Courage is fear walking. Courage is being able to notice your fear, notice your disquiet, and choose what you want to do in the service of what is ultimately values aligned.
“Instead what we do is have what I call ‘dead people’s goals’: I don’t want to get stressed. I don’t want to get rejected. I don’t want to fail.
“Dead people never get rejected, they never fail, they never feel stressed. And they’re dead. We do not want dead people to be role models.
“Courage is not the absence of fear. Courage is fear walking.”
“The sulk is a fury that another person hasn’t understood something key about you. Mixed with a real commitment to not explaining what that thing is. Blaming them for not understanding you. But refusing to explain because that seems to be a betrayal of love. "So you get home, you bolt the bathroom door, and you refuse to say what’s wrong. You expect the lover to read through the door and into your soul. And just KNOW. "That’s a childhood fantasy that the parent can see into you. That God can see into you. It’s very touching and so dangerous. ... Read more
I've written my Happiness Manifesto inspired by Gretchen Rubin. A manifesto is a public declaration of intentions and values. Newly revised version: If all else fails, let go a little. Or a lot. Don’t sweat small stuff (It’s all small stuff) Different people like different things. Effort over outcomes. Show up. Events involve pieces beyond us. Win-win or no deal, and that’s okay! Listen. Notice what right. Say good things out loud. Mistakes are neutral at worst, helpful at best. Decisions go forward, not backward. Original draft (November 3, 2016) If all else fails, let go a little. Or a ... Read more