“If you look at a thing, the very fact of your looking changes it…if you think about yourself, that very fact changes you.” Robert Penn Warren (Flood: A Novel)
I hope to witness and workaround the downsides of curiosity: Doubtful skepticism. Overstepping. Self-destructiveness. Distraction. Blame.
I choose to act on the upsides of curiosity. Instead of presenting opposition, I’ll try to show I’m on your side, I’m on my side, and explore ideas with you.
I’m often surprised when I present an idea and it’s received conflicting. I tend to feel that most ideas are additive and compatible. The question to explore is how, when, and where an idea belongs in practical senses.
With purpose and repetition, I can gain skill in presenting a shared world of thoughts.
I love the one word theme years. In a word, I conjure up a version of myself.
A dog is trained to heel. In the same way, practice over a year – or even the idea of practice itself – that once felt hard becomes easily summoned with a single command.
Reviewing last year: Age 35 – Process:
Once you look at a series of actions and steps in our goals on such a small level, it can seem silly to not move forward.
I’ve discovered that I can identify easy steps to change. Overwhelmed by chores? Stand up. Look around.
Let myself view on a small level.
We can see the easy parts. Why change the hardest part when often it’ll change anyway by tackling something so easy?
There’s a downside to processes too. We convince ourselves that our actions remain so small that it must be neutral or good.
Once put into one context or another, that little moment can become something no longer valuable.
Let myself view at a higher altitude.
One word themes
- 2018 Complete. (Level Up by Ciara)
- 2017 Go. (Ready to Go by Panic at the Disco)
- 2016 Listen (Listen by Beyonce).
- Age 36 Curious (Witness by Katy Perry)
- Age 35: Process (Life is Wonderful by Jason Mraz)
- Age 34: Balance (The Middle by Jimmy Eat World)
Download a free cheat sheet I made for myself about navigating the world. I like reminders. Maybe you’ll like it too. Full-text below. Download a PDF: One Rule To Live By Cheat Sheet – One rule to live by: There’s no one rule. I love saving many tools and models for navigating the world. The devil is in the details of course. There are no absolutes, only thoughts to try. This takes practice and it's not magic. Frameworks and models I’m a student of: Negative Emotions: Look at your own thoughts and beliefs first: State many good outcomes. Stay specific ... Read more
"You'd probably start laughing because you'd realize that your fears had been the result of a gigantic cosmic joke that had persisted throughout all of your previous reincarnations." David D. Burns
"According to this legend, after you die, you'll wake up in a dark place. Out of the darkness, a terrifying monster will suddenly appear. The monster will represent all the worst fears you've ever had. For each person, the monster will be different, since we all have different fears and vulnerabilities. "When the monster appears, you'll have two choices: You can try to get away, or you can surrender. If you try to get away, you will escape– but just barely–and soon you'll be lost in the dark again. "Out of the darkness, a second monster will emerge. This one ... Read more