“It’s easy to assume that people who regularly appear in public (i.e. make videos, teach courses, write books, act, speak, etc.) are fearless. That somehow they’re always confident and self-assured.” Marie Forleo
“It’s important to set good boundaries so people know how to help you. They want to help. They want to participate well. It’s up to you to let them know. You recognize their good intentions. You recognize their place of care, concern and a willingness to help that this is coming from.”
“Even if it is hard for you at the moment or creating more difficulty than it’s actually helping. You don’t respond with rudeness. You set those boundaries clearly. You do remember those good intentions. That can be difficult. Particularly when you’re in a very stressful and hard time. You do your best. Those are the moments that you get to shine.”
Dan Post Senning, Emily Post InstituteAlso on:
“‘We’ve all done it.’ You can’t be perfect. You can’t not make mistakes. The fact is we all do it. Somehow that phrase for me is just reassuring. So a good nights sleep and remember no one is perfect. It is that bad feeling. The answer isn’t that you never experience bad feelings. You will feel it and you will screw up.” Gretchen RubinAlso on:
People are hard to hate close up. How to move in closer:
“There is not trust without boundaries.”
“I can only trust you if you do what you say you’ll do” again and again.
“I can only trust you if when you make a mistake, you’re willing to own it, apologize for it and make amends. I can only trust you if when I make a mistake, I am allowed to own it, apologize and make amends.
Keeping a confidence. Share only what’s yours to share.
“Choosing courage over comfort, choosing what’s right over what’s fun, fast or easy, and practicing your values not just professing your values.”
You and I both can struggle and ask for help
“Our relationship is only a trusting relationship if you can assume the most generous thing about my words, intentions, and behaviors. And then check in with me.”
Podcasts I listen to:
- Feeling Good – Psychiatrist and Author David Burns discusses mood improvement tips and exercises.
- Happier with Gretchen Rubin – Gretchen (author of The Happiness Project and The Four Tendencies) and her sister Elizabeth Craft (TV writer) discuss habits
- Happier in Hollywood – Liz Craft and Sarah Fain discuss the struggles as TV writers in the male-dominated entertainment industry.
- Awesome Etiquette – The great-grandchildren of etiquette author Emily Post discuss modern manners in the digital age based on the tenants of consideration, respect, and honest.
- Getting Things Done
- TED Radio Hour
- The James Altucher Show
- The Upgrade by Lifehacker
- Slate’s Dear Prudence
- Windows Weekly
- Pop Culture Happy Hour
- InDesign Secrets
- By The Book
- Hidden Brain
- HBR IdeaCast
- PBS NewsHour
- Hello From the Magic Tavern – A man falls through a dimensional portal behind a Burger King into a magic land filled with wizards, magical monsters, and adventurers. Starring Chicago Improvisers.
- That’s How I Remember It – Actors flawlessly recreate perfectly exactly movies they’ve seen and haven’t seen from memory on the spot.
- A Way with Words – A call-in show about the English language linguistics, slang, new words, jokes, word games, grammar, regional dialects and word history.
- The Marie Forleo Podcast
- Radical Candor
- I Hate My Boss
- The Dinner Party Download
- If I Were You
- Dear Sugars
- Get-Done Guy’s Quick and Dirty Tips to Work Less and Do More
- The Savvy Psychologist’s Quick and Dirty Tips for Better Mental Health
- Grammar Girl Quick and Dirty Tips for Better Writing
- The Nutrition Diva’s Quick and Dirty Tips for Eating Well and Feeling Fabulous
- Money Girl’s Quick and Dirty Tips for a Richer Life
- Planet Money
- Recode Decode with Kara Swisher
- Recode Media with Peter Kafka
- Katie Couric
- Judge John Hodgman
- Anna Faris Is Unqualified
- The Backline – An Improv Podcast
- This Week in Google
- All About Android
- The Accidental Creative
- Side Hustle School
- The Mortified Podcast
- Myths and Legends
- Hannah and Matt Know It All
- Improv Nerd with Jimmy Carrane
- improv4humans with Matt Besser
- The American Life
- Design Matters with Debbie Millman
- Marvel Cinematic Universe
- FiveThirtyEight Politics
“I believe that you have an idea inside of you that probably could change the very world around you. I also know that many of us allow those ideas to die on the vine. Because of social pressure. Because of lack of support. Because of lack of courage to take the first necessary steps to put those ideas in the world.” Todd HenryAlso on:
“The best way to combat negativity bias is to embed as many positive experiences and memories in our brain as possible. Let’s say a friend sends you an email thanking you for a great weekend together. Don’t just say ‘well that’s sweet’ and archive it. Spend at least 20 seconds soaking in the memories from that weekend. The goal here is to really cement that positivity in your mind.” Marie Forleo