“Molly had an identical experience as I had when I first started working on ‘The Office,’ where I was the only minority and the only woman to work on the writing staff.”
“I remember that so vividly. The nervousness I felt … going into that mostly Harvard room of writers, who had all worked on TV before, and feeling so overwhelmed and being so nervous I was going to get fired every day, for like a year.”
“I don’t think it would even be possible to have a writers’ room that looked the way that it did when I was starting out … and I think that would be a real problem for a lot of different people involved at the studio and the network that that would happen, so that’s, I think, really nice. I know there are still some rooms that are like that but it’s becoming more and more obsolete, which is great.”
“I feel happy that people think it’s timely because I’ve been working on it for a long time. ”
“I love writing about inclusiveness and employment, about intersectional feminism — those are the kind of things that are interesting to me to write about. I literally feel so lucky that it’s the kind of thing that you’re reading about in the newspapers.”
“When you are learning how to detach, you have to “act as if” you are detached until you are. It takes a long time for your emotions to detach. So, you decide what you would DO if you could feel detached, then do it, even though your emotions are still attached. Then you continue to do it, until your emotions feel detached.
“For example, if you know it is good for you to go out to relax for an evening with a friend and your spouse is upset with you for going, your emotions will tell you to stay home. If you were detached, you would say, “I can’t make him/her think or feel differently and going to a movie with a friend is good for me. I am going to keep my plan to go out and detach from him/her being upset with me for taking care of myself.” When you act as if, you go to the movie, even though you are thinking about your spouse being upset and worried about it. Later after you feel detached, you are able to let go of the emotions while you are out.
“Faking it till ya make it is healthy with detachment because detachment is a healthy behavior that we have trouble doing in difficult relationships. Faking it, ie, denying emotions and pretending things are okay, is not. Do you get the difference?”
“Creative people often bristle at the suggestion that they have to stoop to market their ideas or dress them in familiar garb.
“It’s pleasant to think an ideas brilliance is self evident and doesn’t require the theater of marketing.
“But whether you’re an academic, screen writer, or entrepreneur, the difference between a brilliant new idea with bad marketing and a mediocre idea with excellent marketing can be the difference between bankruptcy and success.
“The trick is learning to frame your new ideas as tweaks of old ideas.
“Mix a little fluency with disfluency. To make your audience see the familiarity behind the surprise.”
Derek Thompson, Hit Makers
“People have a mistaken notion that they’re going to arrive at some point where it’s going to be easy.” Marie Forleo
“You’re never going to arrive at that point.” Steven Pressfield
“There is this veil. People have this mistaken notion that the people in the game… that they have some magical mystical thing that they don’t.”
“To look at it in a positive way. Resistance is the villain in the movie. If there’s no villain, there’s no movie. Resistance gives meaning. If it was just there and you just had to pick it up, it wouldn’t mean anything.”
Source: The Marie Forleo Podcast – 223 – Steven Pressfield On How To Overcome Resistance & Why Talent Doesn’t Matter
“Love of self, love of other: two strands in the love braid.
“I have braided these strands together in all sorts of relationships, in varying degrees of grace and ineptitude.
“I’ve messed up in both directions: being self-centered, being a martyr; not knowing my own worth, not valuing the essential worth of the other.
“To love well is to get the balance right. It’s the work of a lifetime. It’s art.
Source: Elizabeth Lesser Archives – SuperSoul.tv
“In this world of coaching and personal development and experts, I think the old model was all about some Sage On The Stage.
“That’s always how I like to characterize it where someone was standing up there and pretending like they have all the answers and they never make any mistakes.
“They’re gonna bestow upon you this wisdom and guide you to the promised land.
“First of all, I think all of that is bullshit. I think it’s so inauthentic. It is not true.
“Every single one of us is a work in progress. We are all learning. We’re all trying our best. We will all face challenges.
“Not only the ones that we had in our past, but there are ones coming up in the future.
“I always like to describe myself never as a sage on the stage and always as a Guide On The Side. What does that mean?
“That means I’m someone who is really enthusiastic first of all about learning. Second of all, about using ideas for myself to see what works and what doesn’t. Then third, with sharing those ideas, the things I think are valuable with folks who might also be interested and might also want to try these things.”
“Nos are not personal. They’re because a business has some goal that’s not aligned with what you want to do. It’s because someone has a friend who talks to so and so who gets you the thing. Sometimes it’s because someone is better than you. That’s okay.”
“Just because you become successful doesn’t mean you get less no’s. If you can’t handle that, you need to re-evaluate. Do something else.
“If you can’t handle an onslaught of no’s, this is not the right career. Most people can. Over time you build a level of resilience. In the beginning, it’s much harder.
“The more times you hear no, the less it registers and ruins your day. There was a time when we’d be down for a week. Now, it doesn’t even get on my radar.”
Liz and Sarah answer all your questions about the entertainment industry in this very special Mailroom episode!
Source: Episode 87: From The Mailroom: A Listener Questions Episode • Happier in Hollywood
“If someone is whining about not having coffee – even if it’s your boss – you 100% not-at-all do not need to volunteer to do that. It’s not your job. He can get his own coffee. If he doesn’t want to, he can hire someone who has that in his job description.”
“If someone asks you to fix the vacuum, your answer can just be: I don’t know how to do that any more than you do. Sorry I can’t help If someone asks you to do other things that aren’t your job, you can say: sorry I don’t have to do that right now.”
“If not, you’re going to train people that you’re the admin. You’re not. Look at all of your coworkers who have decided it’s not their problem. Follow their cues.”
Source: Ask a Manager – I Don’t Want to Become the Office Secretary | Listen via Stitcher Radio On Demand
“Putting something on your list like ‘lose 50lbs’ or ‘learn spanish’. Those are outcomes. We can’t control outcomes. We can control actions.
“Translate that into an action that you’re going to follow. Like ‘Quit Sugar’ or ‘No more fast food.’ Put that on your list. You can’t wake up tomorrow and lose 50lbs. You can wake up tomorrow and not go to a fast food joint.
“Learn Spanish? That’s a gigantic goal. What are you asking of yourself? It might be: Watch one YouTube video a day. Or use DuoLingo consistently. It’s unlikely that putting ‘Learn Spanish’ on a list is going to help.
“Think more about: What would you do to get closer to your goal? Things that you can check on if you’re doing.
“Action items. Make action items. Concrete manageable action that you can make tomorrow.”
Source: Happier with Gretchen Rubin Episode 203: Plan Your 19 for 2019
My one word theme for 2019 is ACCEPT.
I notice when others push against reality – idealization, disbelief, and outright denial. This is a cue for my desire to accept others, situations, and myself as they are. Feel as I am.
Accept that many things and people won’t be ideal. Believe others with supportive curiosity rather than doubtful skepticism.
With acceptance, I get to decide how I deal with that reality.
I can accepting present myself and still work toward my future self.
For 2018, my theme was COMPLETE
Where I am is the most complete version of me.
As I suspected, thinking of endings often leads me to feel my own resistance. I can complete by starting. Think of a new beginning, a fresh start.
I also enjoy reflecting after something is done rather than looking forward to a finish line
2017 was Go. Starting new things, projects, meeting new people, taking on new commitments.
2016 was Listen. As much as I want to be a creative force, more often I need to use what’s already there.
2019 / Accept – “Autobiography” by Ashlee Simpson
2018 / Complete – “Level Up” by Ciara
2017 / Go – “Ready to Go” by Panic at the Disco
2016 / Listen – “Listen” by Beyonce
Age 36 / Curious – :Witness” Katy Perry
Age 35 / Process – “Life is Wonderful” by Jason Mraz
Age 34 / Balance – “The Middle” by Jimmy Eat World