“I don’t know how you can have the same kind of people… and think you’re being fair in your selection process. Ever. That you had no problem. It’s just that you had ‘higher standards’.” Kara Swisher with Emily Chang

“I said: ‘what is your responsibility to hiring women?’ He said ‘We’re serious about this, we’re blind to gender, race, ethnicity we’re looking very hard.’ I said ‘Are you looking hard enough?’ He said we’re looking very hard. What we’re not to prepared to do is to ‘lower our standards’.”

“Which is only used with women and people of color. Just fyi.”

“I couldn’t believe what I just heard. I wasn’t trying to trap him”

“That’s not trapping. That’s what he thinks. I thought he would have thought about it and would have a thoughtful answer.”

“People were horrified. And to be fair, some people didn’t think anything was wrong with it.”

“I don’t know how you can have the same kind of people… and think you’re being fair in your selection process. Ever. That you had no problem. It’s just that you had ‘higher standards’.”

“If you judge Sequoia simply on actions: they didn’t hire a woman in 44 years. This is the best venture capital firm. You’re telling me you can’t find one woman?”

“What they’re saying is women are not qualified to do technology. Or that you’re not qualified to find them. It’s the thing, they’ve had all this success? What have they missed? How do they know they haven’t missed out on the woman who would have found the cure to cancer or whatever”

Source: Recode Decode, hosted by Kara Swisher – How to fix Silicon Valley’s ‘Brotopia’

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“Walking into any conversation knowing full well that it’s okay if you choose to walk away. That it’s okay to choose if you to participate or not. It gives you such control – for me, it gives me confidence. It means I can really talk to anybody.” Lizzie Post

“Walking into any conversation knowing full well that it’s okay if you choose to walk away. That it’s okay to choose if you to participate or not. It gives you such control – for me, it gives me confidence. It means I can really talk to anybody. I’ll feel pretty good that I can set my boundaries and do what I need to do to take care of me.

“So, what might happen is when I start hearing a viewpoint I disagree with. I make a choice: Am I going to share my perspective? Am I going to listen or not engage?

“It’s a simple choice you get to make. Sometimes you’ll make the listen choice. Sometimes you’ll make the walk away choice.You can always – always – choose to be curious about what they think and what their life has gone that has led them to have these thoughts.

“You can also choose to just lightly listen to them. You don’t have to take everything they say to heart. We analyze people in our heads all the time and choose how seriously to interpret what they’re saying. You get to do that.

“Come from that place that I really get to choose makes me confident engaging in potentially confrontational territory.

“Option 1 is that, Option 2, if I’ve expressed my position a few times and I want to be done. I might say: Thank you for talking to me as much as you did. I’m going to mingle with someone else now.”

Source: The Distilled Man: Confidence | Self-Development | Career | Lifestyle | Relationships – Lizzie Post: Etiquette in the 21st Century | Listen via Stitcher Radio On Demand

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“You get to choose. Whether that’s something you make a positive situation. Or whether you choose to ignore it. Or make it worse. It’s all up to you.” Lizzie Post

“Emily Post always said that whenever two people come together and their actions affect one another, you have etiquette. That exactly what it’s all about. It doesn’t matter if you’re holding a door or getting married. There’s some form of etiquette going on between you. And you get to choose. Whether that’s something you make a positive situation. Or whether you choose to ignore it. Or make it worse. It’s all up to you.” Lizzie Post

Source: Awesome Etiquette – Episode #1: The Yawning and the Pinky

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“A really progressive company does not ‘accidentally’ wind up with mostly men. Especially mostly men in positions of leadership. That happens on purpose. It’s a cultural choice.” Mallory Ortberg

“A ‘male-dominated company’ is not a ‘fairly progressive company’. Unless there’s a specific reason that’s mostly men need to work there. Like issues that affect men. Like some type of ideological reasons that it’s male-dominated.

“That doesn’t mean they’re all monsters or all extreme right wingers. A really progressive company does not ‘accidentally’ wind up with mostly men. Especially mostly men in positions of leadership. That happens on purpose. It’s a cultural choice.

“It’s one of those things that’s existence depends on pretending it’s not a thing. So it’s like ‘Oh yeah I guess uh we do happen to have male management. I don’t know why. We’d love to have more women. If only they’d apply. But they’re hiding. And every time we try to give them a job, they burrow underground and hide away.

“It’s not an accident. Male domination is never an accident. It’s on purpose”

Mallory Ortberg

Source: Dear Prudence: The “Tepidly Panromantic” Edition

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“You deserve to feel happy now, not some imaginary time in the future when the stars align” Sarah Von Bargen 

Find things to be happy about RIGHT NOW. Your life is not going to be solved when you get that promotion, creatively make something “good”, make “more money”, get your chores “done”, meet a new friend, or have a “good date” .

All of those things sure help and yet… They don’t solve the problem. None of my accomplishments or talents or good days solves a thing. Only when I said hey I like my effort, drive, and the way I do things do I figure out how to feel better.

If you’re trying to figure out your life, surprise! This is your life right now.

Read more: Why are you putting off happiness? – Sarah Von Bargen – Medium

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“Write it down. Look at it regularly. Either clean the damn garage or feel okay you’re not doing it. Re-negotiate with yourself.” David Allen

“How many of you have some dumb dorky little projects been around your house a lot longer than they should have been around your house? Clean the garage. Ho hum. Wasn’t that important. If it wasn’t that important, why don’t you feel good you haven’t done it? Isn’t that good self-management? Avoid doing low priority things.

“Obviously there were other higher priority things than cleaning the garage. Drink beer, listen to music, hang out, do nothing. You did that instead of cleaning the garage. Why don’t you feel good about that? One reason. You filed away in RAM and it’s been beating you up ever since you filed it in there. There’s no sense of past or future. It’s been yanking your chain every time you walk by your garage

“Your salvation as simple as this may sound: Write it down. Look at it regularly. Either clean the damn garage or feel okay you’re not doing it. Re-negotiate with yourself.”

Source: Getting Things Done – Ep: 36 – Overcoming Procrastination

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“Finish what you start. Even if it’s crappy. Just finish it.” Jenna Fischer (The Office)

“Create your own work Always be working. All of the successful people I know, they’re compulsive about work. They do improv on the side. More than that, they take the three best people from their class that they connected with and start an improv group and improv show. They get their friends together. They do a podcast. They do a YouTube channel. They do a web series. I do that all the time. I’m still doing that. What’s another thing I can do. With writing, always be writing. Finish what you do. Finish what you start. Even if it’s crappy. Just finish it.” Jenna Fischer (The Office)

Source: Episode 27: Jenna Fischer Talks Party Crashing, Pottery Barn Tears, and Patience • Happier in Hollywood

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“Your goal when you’re auditioning is to create a consistent body of work. So it’s okay to go in and get that one job.” Jenna Fischer

A great microcosm of life. Show up and do what works for you.
“Your goal when you’re auditioning is to create a consistent body of work. So it’s okay to go in and get that one job. It’s to start planting seeds with the various casting offices and directors that you’re a Good Actor. You might not be the right Good Actor for this role, but in general you’re a good actor. Because a lot of the reasons that you get or don’t get a job are arbitrary and not related to your talent.
“The number of jobs I’ve lost because they changed the character. Or someone else was more famous than I was. You can have three great actors all reading for one role. The two people who didn’t get it, it doesn’t mean they were bad. That’s why when you go into an audition it’s okay to get a no. You’re gonna go on 49 auditions before you get the job. Not as a 1 to 1 ratio. 50 No’s to every Yes. If you call me in, I’m gonna give you a solid performance.”
Things work out the way they work out.

Source: Episode 27: Jenna Fischer Talks Party Crashing, Pottery Barn Tears, and Patience • Happier in Hollywood

 

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“We shouldn’t be surprised that extremists today try to terrorize and spread their own form of tyranny through new media.” Anti-Defamation League CEO Jonathan Greenblatt

“There a libertarian ethos there, where it’s like, ‘Anything goes, and it’ll be good, just keep the government away, and we’ll innovate our way to utopia. We both know human nature doesn’t exactly work that way. We shouldn’t be surprised that extremists exploit new media. The Nazis did it, with ‘Triumph of the Will.’ The Soviets did it, with Pravda. We shouldn’t be surprised that extremists today try to terrorize and spread their own form of tyranny through new media.”

“First and foremost, leaders lead. And what gets said at the top trickles down. Being ambiguous about calling out what seems to me pretty unambiguous — that creates the conditions in which extremism can feel emboldened.”

Anti-Defamation League CEO Jonathan Greenblatt

Source: How to fight extremism online, the right way – Recode

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