“Write it down. Look at it regularly. Either clean the damn garage or feel okay you’re not doing it. Re-negotiate with yourself.” David Allen

“How many of you have some dumb dorky little projects been around your house a lot longer than they should have been around your house? Clean the garage. Ho hum. Wasn’t that important. If it wasn’t that important, why don’t you feel good you haven’t done it? Isn’t that good self-management? Avoid doing low priority things.

“Obviously there were other higher priority things than cleaning the garage. Drink beer, listen to music, hang out, do nothing. You did that instead of cleaning the garage. Why don’t you feel good about that? One reason. You filed away in RAM and it’s been beating you up ever since you filed it in there. There’s no sense of past or future. It’s been yanking your chain every time you walk by your garage

“Your salvation as simple as this may sound: Write it down. Look at it regularly. Either clean the damn garage or feel okay you’re not doing it. Re-negotiate with yourself.”

Source: Getting Things Done – Ep: 36 – Overcoming Procrastination

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“Finish what you start. Even if it’s crappy. Just finish it.” Jenna Fischer (The Office)

“Create your own work Always be working. All of the successful people I know, they’re compulsive about work. They do improv on the side. More than that, they take the three best people from their class that they connected with and start an improv group and improv show. They get their friends together. They do a podcast. They do a YouTube channel. They do a web series. I do that all the time. I’m still doing that. What’s another thing I can do. With writing, always be writing. Finish what you do. Finish what you start. Even if it’s crappy. Just finish it.” Jenna Fischer (The Office)

Source: Episode 27: Jenna Fischer Talks Party Crashing, Pottery Barn Tears, and Patience • Happier in Hollywood

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“Your goal when you’re auditioning is to create a consistent body of work. So it’s okay to go in and get that one job.” Jenna Fischer

A great microcosm of life. Show up and do what works for you.
“Your goal when you’re auditioning is to create a consistent body of work. So it’s okay to go in and get that one job. It’s to start planting seeds with the various casting offices and directors that you’re a Good Actor. You might not be the right Good Actor for this role, but in general you’re a good actor. Because a lot of the reasons that you get or don’t get a job are arbitrary and not related to your talent.
“The number of jobs I’ve lost because they changed the character. Or someone else was more famous than I was. You can have three great actors all reading for one role. The two people who didn’t get it, it doesn’t mean they were bad. That’s why when you go into an audition it’s okay to get a no. You’re gonna go on 49 auditions before you get the job. Not as a 1 to 1 ratio. 50 No’s to every Yes. If you call me in, I’m gonna give you a solid performance.”
Things work out the way they work out.

Source: Episode 27: Jenna Fischer Talks Party Crashing, Pottery Barn Tears, and Patience • Happier in Hollywood

 

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“We shouldn’t be surprised that extremists today try to terrorize and spread their own form of tyranny through new media.” Anti-Defamation League CEO Jonathan Greenblatt

“There a libertarian ethos there, where it’s like, ‘Anything goes, and it’ll be good, just keep the government away, and we’ll innovate our way to utopia. We both know human nature doesn’t exactly work that way. We shouldn’t be surprised that extremists exploit new media. The Nazis did it, with ‘Triumph of the Will.’ The Soviets did it, with Pravda. We shouldn’t be surprised that extremists today try to terrorize and spread their own form of tyranny through new media.”

“First and foremost, leaders lead. And what gets said at the top trickles down. Being ambiguous about calling out what seems to me pretty unambiguous — that creates the conditions in which extremism can feel emboldened.”

Anti-Defamation League CEO Jonathan Greenblatt

Source: How to fight extremism online, the right way – Recode

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“One of my secrets of adulthood: If it’s not on the calendar it doesn’t happen. If I want anything in my life, I have to figure out how to schedule it. Otherwise something like transcendence? It just never happens” Gretchen Rubin

“One of my secrets of adulthood: If it’s not on the calendar it doesn’t happen. If I want anything in my life, I have to figure out how to schedule it. Otherwise something like transcendence? It just never happens” Gretchen Rubin

Source: Happier with Gretchen Rubin – Ep. 142: Schedule Some Daily Transcendence | Listen via Stitcher Radio On Demand

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“The fear came from wanting it to be great. It had to be great. And if you want it to be great, that’s the fastest ticket to not doing anything.” Eileen Myers (TV writer for Big Love, Masters of Sex)

“The fear came from wanting it to be great. It had to be great. And if you want it to be great, that’s the fastest ticket to not doing anything.

“Over the years, I had to identify what actually do I really want out of my writing. Do I want adulation? When I got granular about what I really wanted, it was: the process is gratifying. It doesn’t have to be great, it has to be the idea that’s in front of me. The idea came to me. It’s my job to pursue it and see it through.

“Resentment gets trickier. Once I turned pro, then you get into notes. That gets to be very tricky psychological territory. You feel infringed upon. Or you internalize the criticism. Or .I don’t want to do this my way was right.’ And you just have to work through resentment. And so I have tools for dealing with fear and resentment.”

Eileen Myers (tv writer for Big Love, Masters of Sex)

Source: Happier in Hollywood – Ep. 25: Procrastinating? Forgive Yourself! | Listen via Stitcher Radio On Demand

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“Feeling understood at home, that’s only going to equip you with dealing with the outside world better.” Gretchen Rubin

“Feeling understood at home, that’s only going to equip you with dealing with the outside world better.” Gretchen Rubin

I feel very lucky to have a super supportive family. They’re honest about any concerns and at the same time supportive that I have the final choice over my life. I didn’t realize until recently what a huge advantage I had.

I studied Fine Art and Music!! I have no memory of family resistance. In fact, it was in some ways my family’s idea.

My mom was like “Please don’t be an accountant, I’m an accountant. I like being good at it and making good money and could change, so I’m not going to change it now.” My sister was like “There’s a job for a graphic designer, you could do part-time while you’re in school.” Everyone really wanted me to do what I wanted to do.

That made me super resilient. I didn’t have to internalize all other’s resistance. I just know intrinsically that problems can be figured out.

Several books I’ve read agree with this podcast’s view: Kids seek out relationships and friendships similarly to those that they find at home. If parents try to emulate the injustice of the world to “prepare” children, they’re often teaching their kids to be participants in injustice. That’s teaching that injustice is just a tool to get what you want. Better perhaps to travel through the world with your child and show them how you handle those external problems that are truly out of control.

Looking at that model, it’s one I enjoy with relationships with other adults. I call it “Soft Heart, Strong Limits.” Making supportive and at the same time honest and authentic helps me connect with others in a way that’s both safe and vulnerable. As independent, we become our own parents and get to re-learn and take charge.

“You want home to feel like an oasis. Having parents who understand you helps you feel that way.” Elizabeth Craft

Listen to more on: Happier with Gretchen Rubin – Ep. 141: Find Your Oasis | Listen via Stitcher Radio On Demand

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