“Action is identity. You have to do the verb to become the noun.”
“That’s a sign that people are invested and that they want to go forward.”
“If we’re treating the notes as part of the process of making things better, it’s much easier to handle things in a positive way.”
“This is a team effort. People at the studio, the network, they are part of the team. It’s not an Us and a Them. It’s just US. We all want the same thing.”
“Many experienced and inexperienced writers, they have the sense that this is my vision and that they are attacking my vision. That’s a very common way to think. That is not at all where how we think about things.”
“If we don’t think it’ll get on the air, we push back. If we don’t think that, we will accommodate the note as best as we can.”
“The other thing is relationships. We have a lot of new relationships.
“See this not as a project, but the relationships. Ultimately a project will end – whether it’s 10 years or 10 days. All you’re left with is relationships.”
“If you had some major disaster in July, the time to deal with it and learn from was in July.
“If you have a major success in May, that’s the point to analyze what worked.
“Not in November or December many months later.
“We can’t change the past once it’s over. The future is not so constrained, it’s wide open.”
“Most of us think our ideas about things are the things themselves.
“We mistake our stories for the things.
“We mistake our interpretation for the thing. We start having relationships with our stories instead of the things.”
“You have thoughts about me. There are things you like about me. There are things you disagree without about me. You have ideas about who I am and what I stand for. Those are concepts you define. You are having a relationship with me as a concept.
“Think about my name. The language of my name. There’s me and there’s my name. They’re different things. There’s me and there’s the description of me. The circumstance is your experience of me: The experience of my voice without language. If we were in the same room, the physical experience of me.”
“The goal isn’t to have direct experience without language.”
“Not to stay there and live there. Just know that circumstance gives you a place to rest in between your models.”
“Passing through neutral.”
“Sometimes you can’t go from a negative thought to a positive thought.
“Sometimes it’s easier to go from: I hate my body to I have a body to I love my body.”
“The key to finding love is having a coping style that doesn’t push love away.
“Every single one of us needs help with that. We all push love away.
“The grand task of life is to know how we push love away and to mature beyond that.”
“An obliger is like: If you can’t be a citizen of humanity and wash out your own dish, you’re a thoughtless and soulless barbarian.”
“Questioners are like: It’s not efficient.”
“An upholder is like: It’s not my job.”
“A rebel is like: I don’t feel like it.”
“An obliger thinks really it’s powerfully wrong.”
“You’re not doing this TO me, you’re like this with everybody in your life. I don’t have to be angry about it. I can just try to figure out a situation where both of us can thrive.”
“Make it clear you are credible.”
“Offer value. Demonstrate how you can help.”
“Highlight what makes you interesting. Successful people like connecting to other interesting people. Because it’s fun.”
“Position yourself as a peer who is notable in your own right.”
“Make it clear you have no expectations. You get extra points for empathy. Too many people reach out with an extraordinary level of entitlement: free things, introductions, a lot of time. Show an awareness of their circumstances.”
“Learn by the act of doing. Rather than theory or conceptualizing. Or what too many of us do, too much research. Procrastination disguised as research.”
“Working is the most dangerous form of procrastination. It feels productive and it’s endless”
“Don’t let the perfect enemy of good. Do something.”
“Action is a way to move right through fear. You’ll feel it. You’re never going to not feel fear. Once you take action, you’ll gain momentum. Momentum is a secret super power that can make almost anything happen.”
“Action is the antidote to anxiety. You’re very anxious about getting started. Just getting started itself gets you over that anxiety. The it’s underway.”
“Action is the antidote to fear. Most of the time, once we get into the action of doing something it’s actually fun. I’m learning, growing and I can figure it out”
“Even if it goes wrong, I can correct it because it’s not a fantasy.”
“Being indiscreet to force a relationship int a closer space a little more quickly. If that’s a tactic that’s effective for you and you’re prepared to suffer the consequences for being too forward or pushy, that’s a choice you get to make.
“Be intelligent about knowing that’s a choice. There might be consequences as well as rewards for choosing to do that.
“The risk is great. The risk is really hurting someone as topics get more personal. You want to be firmly aware of that.”
“Having testing tactics for conversations is not in the best respectful or considerate categories really when it comes to our behavior with one another.
“The goal really should be to find ways open conversations that are natural and comfortable for people. Based on cues that they’re giving. Rather than pushing boundaries or trying to make people uncomfortable purposefully.”
“You can go there, sure. Be prepared to suffer the consequences. Rather than opening something you, you may close a door completely.”