Time feels no concern about whether you’re ready, willing, able, competent, foolish, or prepared.
Take every moment for what it is: Experience.
We each get to have our own unique experience. At times that feels empowering. Other times that feels lonely.
We learn from the experiences of others. We grow from believing in what we see, hear, touch, smell, taste.
Tough times make the happiest memories. Remember when that moment seemed important? Later, it didn’t matter at all. That split second that seemed insignificant changed everything.
2019 – Accept – “Autobiography” by Ashlee Simpson
2018 Complete – “Level Up” by Ciara
2017: Go – “Ready to Go” by Panic at the Disco
2016: Listen – “Listen” by Beyonce
Age 37 Paradox
Age 36 Curious – Witness by Katy Perry + Curiosity – Carly Rae
Age 35: Process – “Life is Wonderful” by Jason Mraz
Age 34: Balance – “The Middle” by Jimmy Eat World
My one-word theme for 2019 has been “Accept”, so a manifesto on opinions feels good.
1. Love people first, then philosophy
2. It’s not good because I like it. It’s not evil because I don’t like it.
3. Ideas, suggestions, and thoughts – not truths.
4. Own thoughts in my active voice.
5. Personal speaks to the universal
6. I shouldn’t should. (You might want… or they may choose…)
7. Ideas may change others, only if they choose to change.
8. Strong judgments create a mirror on the judger.
9. Inquire gently
“Action is identity. You have to do the verb to become the noun.”
“That’s a sign that people are invested and that they want to go forward.”
“If we’re treating the notes as part of the process of making things better, it’s much easier to handle things in a positive way.”
“This is a team effort. People at the studio, the network, they are part of the team. It’s not an Us and a Them. It’s just US. We all want the same thing.”
“Many experienced and inexperienced writers, they have the sense that this is my vision and that they are attacking my vision. That’s a very common way to think. That is not at all where how we think about things.”
“If we don’t think it’ll get on the air, we push back. If we don’t think that, we will accommodate the note as best as we can.”
“The other thing is relationships. We have a lot of new relationships.
“See this not as a project, but the relationships. Ultimately a project will end – whether it’s 10 years or 10 days. All you’re left with is relationships.”
“If you had some major disaster in July, the time to deal with it and learn from was in July.
“If you have a major success in May, that’s the point to analyze what worked.
“Not in November or December many months later.
“We can’t change the past once it’s over. The future is not so constrained, it’s wide open.”
“Most of us think our ideas about things are the things themselves.
“We mistake our stories for the things.
“We mistake our interpretation for the thing. We start having relationships with our stories instead of the things.”
“You have thoughts about me. There are things you like about me. There are things you disagree without about me. You have ideas about who I am and what I stand for. Those are concepts you define. You are having a relationship with me as a concept.
“Think about my name. The language of my name. There’s me and there’s my name. They’re different things. There’s me and there’s the description of me. The circumstance is your experience of me: The experience of my voice without language. If we were in the same room, the physical experience of me.”
“The goal isn’t to have direct experience without language.”
“Not to stay there and live there. Just know that circumstance gives you a place to rest in between your models.”
“Passing through neutral.”
“Sometimes you can’t go from a negative thought to a positive thought.
“Sometimes it’s easier to go from: I hate my body to I have a body to I love my body.”
“The key to finding love is having a coping style that doesn’t push love away.
“Every single one of us needs help with that. We all push love away.
“The grand task of life is to know how we push love away and to mature beyond that.”
“An obliger is like: If you can’t be a citizen of humanity and wash out your own dish, you’re a thoughtless and soulless barbarian.”
“Questioners are like: It’s not efficient.”
“An upholder is like: It’s not my job.”
“A rebel is like: I don’t feel like it.”
“An obliger thinks really it’s powerfully wrong.”
“You’re not doing this TO me, you’re like this with everybody in your life. I don’t have to be angry about it. I can just try to figure out a situation where both of us can thrive.”
“Make it clear you are credible.”
“Offer value. Demonstrate how you can help.”
“Highlight what makes you interesting. Successful people like connecting to other interesting people. Because it’s fun.”
“Position yourself as a peer who is notable in your own right.”
“Make it clear you have no expectations. You get extra points for empathy. Too many people reach out with an extraordinary level of entitlement: free things, introductions, a lot of time. Show an awareness of their circumstances.”