How to Learn Resilience

Love this discussion on learned resilience. The idea of being comforted by research; I’m glad they all laughed about that because I’m that person! I listened to the audiobooks mentioned. They even deep dive into Martin Seligman’s ideas of Permanence, Pervasiveness and Personalization:

  • Practice explaining that bad events, feelings, and failures are temporary. Pay attention to the ways good things link to permanent qualities.
  • Rehearse seeing problems in one area of life as being in their own world separate from your life.  At the same time, use good things to see good in all parts of your life.
  • Train yourself to pay attention to how issues have causes outside of yourself. Take confidence in how you made a difference when good things happen.

After her husband died suddenly from a cardiac arrhythmia, Facebook’s COO Sheryl Sandberg (Lean In) thought she would never experience true joy again. Nearly two years later, she is out with a new book, Option B, that delves into how she proved herself wrong— and how others can build resilience in the face of trauma, too. Sandberg wrote Option B with her friend Adam Grant, an organizational psychologist and Wharton professor. They both join Katie onstage at the 92Y in Manhattan to discuss insights from the book, including how to support grieving children, dating after loss, and the “three P’s” that can hinder recovery.

Listen to the episode: 26. Sheryl Sandberg: Living Option B from Katie Couric


“You keep going until you find the stream that feels right to you.” Ina Garten

Listen to Katie Couric episodes free, on demand. Ina Garten welcomes Katie and Brian to her home on Easter morning for a lesson on slow-cooked scrambled eggs (with truffles!) and a wide-ranging conversation at her kitchen table. Between bites of breakfast, they discuss Ina’s views on feminism, other celebrity chefs, and her unlikely path from White House nuclear energy expert to Food Network star.

“People stand on the side of the pond. Talking about the pond what the pond is. Is it too hot, is it too cold? You have to jump into the pond. I have a low threshold of boredom. If I’m bored, I have to change things. When you’re jumping into that pond, it’s not that you’re gonna just stay in that pond. You keep going until you find the stream that feels right to you.” Ina Garten

Listen to the podcast: Katie Couric – 25. Ina Garten: At Home With the Barefoot Contessa


It’s all about your pronouns.

“We’re actually always trying to screen out for entitlement. Because we find that that is the enemy of everything.

“It creates unrealistic expectations; it hurts collaboration, which … is like the core to the modern workplace. It impacts learning in general. If you’re entitled, you likely think you know more than you do.” Warby Parker’s Neil Blumenthal

Read more: Warby Parker’s Neil Blumenthal doesn’t hire entitled job candidates – Business Insider


“Capabilities + Competence = Confidence”

Lolly Daskal was designated a Top-50 Leadership and Management Expert by Inc. magazine. Huffington Post honored Lolly with the title of The Most Inspiring Woman in the World. 

“Capabilities + Competence = Confidence. Confidence is believing you’re capable. Competence is knowing your able. When you know you’re able to do something, you feel confidence.”

Listen to the interview: Operating Out of Greatness with Lolly Daskal – Episode 189 of The Action Catalyst Podcast


“I have a lot of feelings about people’s need to monitor the food intake allergies or health problems of other people. To take them really personally and feel the need to judge them as ‘real’ or not.”

The Ethicist: “Should a Family Member Expose Their Niece’s Fake Food Allergy?”.

“I have a lot of feelings about people’s need to monitor the food intake allergies or health problems of other people. To take them really personally and feel the need to judge them as ‘real’ or not.”

Source: Hannah and Matt Befriend Liza Featherstone from Hannah and Matt Know It All